To all my Overlooked Rule-Abiders, Shy Perfectionists and Burnt-Out People-Pleasers: This Is for You
Does the fear of saying the wrong thing keep you quiet?
Does the thought of making a mistake or looking foolish make your whole body tense up?
Do you get stuck in your head and overwhelmed by a racing heart, hot cheeks, dry mouth and sweaty palms when you need to speak up in a group?
Have you put others first for so long that you’ve lost touch with your own wants — and don’t have a clue how to connect with your intuition?
Take a moment 😌
Drop your shoulders.
Relax your jaw.
Take a deep breath.
Now imagine this
You’re no longer stuck in thought spirals, replaying that thing you said or didn’t say or how you said it. You speak with ease. You trust yourself. Express yourself. You’re on your own side no matter what. And you feel free.
What if ‘being good’ is what’s holding you back?
When you’ve been taught that expressing what you want or what you need is ‘naughty’, you lock powerful parts of yourself away in the shadows.
And then what happens?
You doubt your gut feelings, lose touch with your intuition, dismiss your ideas and desires.
You censor yourself.
You stay quiet and guarded.
When you’ve internalised the message that Who You Are is leaving you open to being judged, rejected or harmed, you bury your spark.
(It’s a deeply wise and protective survival instinct — but it keeps you stuck.)
Let’s unleash your bold side.
Through this playful, drama-based exercise, you’ll start to learn to:
Speak up without rehearsing every word
Trust yourself to find the right words — even if they’re not perfect
Show up confidently as your true self
Discover the confidence that’s already inside you
Stop worrying about being ‘good’ and start being bold
Discover your boldness through your inner baddy
With my FREE guided audio and playsheet, you’ll explore a side of yourself you’ve never dared to before — the unfiltered, expressive Inner Ugly Sister.
‘Baddies’ are their own boss. They trust their gut, rewrite the rules and express themselves fully.
Playing at being ‘bad’ isn’t about being a bad person — it’s a powerful tool to access the confidence that’s already inside you.
What’s holding you back?
When we’re taught to be ‘good,’ we learn to bury parts of ourselves — the bold, confident, expressive parts. This is a wise instinct to protect ourselves, but it also keeps us stuck.
Stepping into a character lets you unlock strength and confidence you didn’t know you had. It gives you permission to play your way and discover a version of yourself that’s authentically expressive.
Dramatic play is the fast way to expressing things you never dared and unlocking parts of yourself you’ve long forgotten.
Why Cinderella’s Ugly Sister?
Because she’s bold, unfiltered and unapologetic — qualities we all have hidden inside.
Her confidence isn’t about being perfect — it’s about being herself. And that energy? It’s already within you. Let’s bring it out.
This isn’t just another confidence-building exercise. It’s playful, imaginative and backed by dramatherapy to create real change.
😎🖤💎 Start feeling more confident today 😎🖤💎
This quick exercise takes just 15 minutes to make a gutsy move towards:
• Breaking free from perfectionism and self-doubt
• Unlocking hidden strength and confidence
• Reconnecting with your spark and intuition
Perfect for anyone struggling with shyness, social anxiety, self-consciousness, inhibitions or low self-esteem.
What’s inside Inner Ugly Sister
Inner Ugly Sister is a guided audio experience and interactive Notion worksheet. (You can use it without a Notion account or sign up for one for free to make the worksheet your own.)
It’s a solo exercise you can do any time. You just need some privacy and some headphones.
Designed especially for anyone who feels held back by shyness, social anxiety or low self-esteem, it’s a gentle and playful way to stretch and grow.
Get a taste of the transformative potential of your imagination and the power of drama to give you an instant, full-bodied experience of more confident, expressive behaviours.
WHAT’S INCLUDED:
Welcome and introduction
Guided audio practice
Writing reflection prompts worksheet
Suggestions for next steps
A powerful practice for closing the exercise
FAQs and tips for when things get tricky
Lots of encouragement and an invitation to get in touch
Feeling ready to get started?
(And ‘ready’ can still mean a bit wary or nervous!)
Download the FREE guided audio and interactive playsheet. In just 15 minutes, you’ll:
Step into the shoes of Cinderella’s boldest Ugly Sister
Use the power of drama to explore your unfiltered self
Discover playful tools to unlock confidence — safely and privately
As a shyness expert, group facilitator and confidence guide, I’ve helped many gutsy people break safely out of their shells using proven techniques drawn from dramatherapy, dramatic play, improv and hypnotic visualisation.
Now it’s your turn.
🎧 Download the FREE guided audio and interactive playsheet now!
And give yourself permission to play.
In just 15 minutes, you’ll take a gutsy step toward greater confidence and self-expression.
Meet your Inner Ugly Sister!
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Meet your Inner Ugly Sister! 🖤😎💎
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